In a perfect world, you’d be able to intuit what every single woman you’ll ever be with in your lifetime desires in bed. Or, all of your lovers would be able to clearly articulate what it is they want from you.

Unfortunately, that’s not reality — though this can make things more engaging and stimulating for all parties involved. After all, isn’t that part of the joy a new relationship entails simply the thrill  in getting to know what makes someone else tick?

While you may think you’re clued into your girlfriend’s every want and need, there are probably some actions she’s too shy to request. Lucky for you, we asked three sexual health experts to spill the beans on what women’s most common unspoken wishes are. Read on to make those wishes your command—and blow her mind in the process.