Q: I want to become exclusive with the girl I’m dating, but there is one problem: She’s slept with way more people than I have! It’s driving me crazy. What should I do?

A: This sounds like a classic case of stage fright. You knew all along about her sexual history,and now you are holding back based on something you can’t change: her past. If you can’t let it go, then let her go. Next time, you might want to take the military’s approach to your lady’s past sexual exploits: Don’t ask! Don’t tell!

About the Expert:
Sil Lai Abrams is a relationship expert and author of No More Drama: Nine Simple Steps to Transforming a Breakdown Into a Breakthrough.

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