Like working out, sex can be bad—and possibly dangerous—if you haven’t warmed up properly.

Look, we know you’re desperate to get to the good stuff (trust us, so is she). But like that first minute on a roller coaster, foreplay can be an electric, exciting way to bring her higher and higher before taking the plunge.

If you take the time and make the right moves, you’ll find yourself loving the pre-game as much as you do the grand finale. But there’s more to foreplay than just rounding the bases and heading home. We asked women to find out how to make foreplay creative and exciting—and the moves that leave them desperate for more.

1. Talk to me

“I love a dude who can communicate during foreplay. Moaning and groaning is cool, but dirty talk is fun for both parties, and typically you end up getting more of what you actually want in the bedroom when you can be vocal about it in a playful way. It’s a great way to get me going.” — Kelly, 26

Couple In Bed

How to incorporate sex toys into your favorite sex...

Experience an orgasm like you've never had before.

Read article

2. Pay attention to the twins

“It sucks when they don’t spend enough time on breasts. Most men seem more than happy to spend a good amount of time on other foreplay activities and areas, but they kind of just see the boobs, give them a quick once over, and then move on, rarely to return. It’s very sad. Give them more loving, we like it!” — Jessica, 26

Couple having sex

25 of the craziest stats about sex

5,117 person survey on fantasies, sexting, condoms, and more.

Read article

3. Be gentle

“I’ve had a few just dive right in and try to just click away on my clit like it’s a computer mouse—like, first thing, before I’m even undressed. One guy got so rambunctious with his fingers that I felt like I was hooking up with Jack the Ripper. Relax, guys—that’s a bigger turn on.” — Stephanie, 28

8 things she wants to hear when she's naked

8 sex questions you’re afraid to ask

How much does size matter? Can you break your penis. And more.

Read article

4. Undress me

“The act of undressing a person is, in itself, a type of foreplay. To me, it is the hottest part of being intimate with someone. Needless to say, when a guy is too excited about the end result that I end up taking my own clothes off in haste, it is a little disappointing.” — Selina, 29

Are you normal in the bedroom?

Are you normal in the bedroom?

20 questions to help you evaluate your performance.

Read article

5. Put your tongue back in your mouth

“Tongue is fun and can be very, very sexy, but too much tongue is nasty. And this goes for tongue engagement across all body parts. Kisses are meant to involve lips and tongue, not tongue only. I don’t need to know what you ate for dinner…and lunch. Tongue and ears also can be sexy, but has the potential to go very wrong and make me feel like you’re trying to clean out my ears with your tongue. Neck: neck kisses are wonderful, but please don’t slobber all over me like a dog or leave hickeys post middle school. (I have to go to work with that.) And lastly, lady parts are very important—tongue is crucial but needs to be utilized correctly.” — Kelly, 26

8 cures for premature ejaculation

8 cures for premature ejaculation

Quit the one-minute man club for good.

Read article

6. Take your time

“If I am not thoroughly warmed up, the sex won’t be good for anyone. In fact, it might hurt. Just be in the moment and enjoy all the fun fooling around. The good stuff will come (literally).” — Justine, 30

5 sex myths she believes

5 sex myths she believes

These need to be set straight—STAT.

Read article

7. Use both hands

“If you’re using a hand down there, you still have another free hand. Either go for the boobs, another part of my privates, or even just caress me somehow. Don’t be lazy.” — Megan, 25

couple in bed

3 side effects of sex you’ve never heard of

Beyond STIs and pregnancy, here are 3 you need to read to believe.

Read article

8. Multi-task

“Nothing is more awkward than when a guy is fingering me and just like hovering over me and staring at me. Kiss me! I don’t care where, but don’t just lie there creepily. What is so difficult about doing those two things at the same time?” — Sara, 32

9. Enjoy my get-up

“If I’m wearing something lacy, it’s for you. And if you don’t notice it, I wasted completely good underwear and a day in an uncomfortable bra for no reason. Don’t be in such a rush that you missed how hot I look in my lingerie. Take a second to take it all in, or you might not get to see it ever again.” — Kristin, 30

10 sex toys that will get her off every time

10 sex toys that will get her off every time

Increase your sexual performance and reach climax faster.

Read article

10. Nibble a little

“The key word here is nibble. Do not by any means treat my skin like beef jerky. But a soft, light bite on my ear, nipple, lip, or neck is so hot. However, this does not apply to my downstairs area.” — Angie, 27