Scoring a first date with a chick you’ve been after warrants a high five, sure. But the real accomplishment is landing a second date, because very few ever lead to another rendezvous. While there are a number of reasons a woman might say no to meeting up again, the most blaring probably has to do with the fact dating is now an on-demand experience.

Thanks to the popularity of dating apps and websites, we can order a first date as easily as we order a pizza—and many people are under the impression their next slice will be better than the last. Also, many singles have no idea what they want or need in a partner, explains Terri Orbuch Ph.D., relationship expert and author of Finding Love Again: 6 Simple Steps to a New and Happy Relationship. “When you don’t know what you need, you keep looking and looking, not giving those who might be right for you a second chance.”

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50 first date conversation starters

Topics for your first date—and beyond—that'll keep things interesting.

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While there’s nothing you can do about today’s dating scene or what’s going on in your date’s mind, you can avoid the most common first date faux pas to increase the odds she’ll want to see you again. Read on to find out what real women, and Orbuch, consider to be deal breakers so you can bring your A-game to your next first date.